I’m playing for a funeral tomorrow. Of a beloved wife who had dementia and did not know her husband for the last 10 years of her life. He faithfully visited her several times a week, talked about her, missed her, loved her. She made the best food he had ever eaten. She kept the best home. She was the perfect wife and mother. In his eyes, she was honored to the very end. I’ll be playing the tune to this text.
He giveth more grace when the burdens grow greater,
He sendeth more strength when the labors increase;
To added afflictions He addeth His mercy,
To multiplied trials, His multiplied peace.
When we have exhausted our store of endurance,
When our strength has failed ere the day is half done,
When we reach the end of our hoarded resources
Our Father’s full giving is only begun.
Fear not that thy need shall exceed His provision,
Our God ever yearns His resources to share;
Lean hard on the arm everlasting, availing;
The Father both thee and thy load will upbear.
His love has no limits, His grace has no measure,
His power has no boundary known unto men;
For out of His infinite riches in Jesus
He giveth, and giveth, and giveth again.
My own dear Granna has dementia and lives at home with my Poppa. She doesn’t know him as her husband. But she trusts him. She trusts him more than any other caregiver. She will listen to him more than to anyone else. The pattern of trust built over close to 60 years was not broken by a broken mind. I was talking tonight with my mom about what it must be like for believers who have dementia and their walk with the Lord. It must be kind of like that. They may not know Him to define Him or remember verses. But if they have a pattern of faith in the Lord God, then they *trust* Him.
How firm a foundation you saints of the Lord,
is laid for your faith in his excellent Word!
What more can he say than to you he has said,
to you who for refuge to Jesus have fled?
“Fear not, I am with you, O be not dismayed,
for I am your God, and will still give you aid;
I’ll strengthen you, help you, and cause you to stand,
upheld by my righteous, omnipotent hand.
“When through the deep waters I call you to go,
the rivers of sorrow shall not overflow,
for I will be with you in trouble to bless,
and sanctify to you your deepest distress.
“When through fiery trials your pathway shall lie,
my grace all-sufficient shall be your supply;
the flame shall not hurt you; I only design
your dross to consume and your gold to refine.
“The soul that on Jesus has leaned for repose
I will not, I will not desert to its foes;
that soul, though all hell should endeavor to shake,
I’ll never, no, never, no never forsake!”
This article about grief sums up the truth that will give comfort as “I can trust God with this.”
I can trust Him! I will *choose* to trust Him through life’s trials. And when my time comes to see my Savior face to face, whether I’ve walked the valley of dementia or not or cared for someone with it or not, He will have given grace, He will be worthy of my trust.